Breathe In – Breathe Out – Breathe In – Breathe Out!
I’m finally catching up from my three day jaunt to Nashville, TN where I attended (along with 650 other bloggers) the annual Blissdom conference. Having attended BlogHer last fall I wasn’t really sure what to expect but I had heard such amazing testimonials over Blissdom that I was super excited. All I can say is that I totally found my BLISS and will be making Blissdom a regular event each year. I honestly learned so much about the business of blogging and about myself. I want to share with you just one of my many stories…
First a picture for you to enjoy:
What do you see when you look at this picture? What thoughts immediately come into your mind?
It isn’t hard for a mom to find guilt and shame everyday in our lives is it? Why are we so hard on ourselves? It’s just a hamburger, right?
The conversation came up several times at Blissdom about my niche and my readers. My readers expect me to talk about how to live a more eco-friendly lifestyle, cloth diapers, breastfeeding, making baby food, phthalates, lead, waste, and how to be better at “Loving Mother Earth”…you don’t really want to know that I’m NOT perfect do you? OF COURSE YOU DO!!! Who am I kidding; unless you are an eco-saint most of us have our strengths and weaknesses in raising our children.
I was trying to explain to the Freschetta PR reps why I didn’t think their product would be a good fit for my blog. I was talking with other green bloggers over lunch about how some topics just aren’t a good fit for my blog. And over and over again the reality of life came through. Even the best green bloggers out there aren’t perfect. Do you expect us to be? Do you expect me to be? Or would you rather that I help make our lives more manageable by telling you what my own weaknesses are – which areas of my life I wish were greener but just don’t have time or energy to change.
I posted this question to my Facebook Fan Page yesterday morning; “I feel guilty when I…” and asked you to leave me your comments. Here are just a few of my favorite ones:
Kim S wrote: “I felt guilty last night putting a paper diaper on the baby because it was the middle of the night and it was the closest to me. Of course he woke up with a rash….”
Tracy S wrote: “…let my husband go to the “baby” (ok, toddler) at night instead of getting up and nursing her. She gets sad, but Mommy needs a little sleep!”
Jenny B wrote: “Leaving my son with my husband so much on weekends when I’m cooking & grocery shopping…and not being able to keep up with them when we are together (36 wks preg).”
and others felt guilty about yelling, lack of patience, spend money, eat crap, don’t do enough, surf the web, watch too much tv, don’t have a clean enough house….the list keeps going. You can read all of them or add your own on my wall. I actually enjoyed reading what others felt guilty about because it made me realize that we ALL have the same guilt. MOMMY GUILT!
The Keynote Speaker at Blissdom this year was Brene Brown; author of The Gifts of Imperfection, Letting Go of Who We Think We Should Be and Embracing Who We Are. While I took many things from her speech the one that I am going to be using as my mantra this year…
I AM ENOUGH!
Won’t you join me and say this at least once a day; especially on those really hard days when you don’t believe you really are ENOUGH! My promise to you is to be as real and as vulnerable as I can be with you. I will (continue) to share with you my strengths but I will also share with you my weaknesses.
Confession: I really wanted to post this yesterday and call it Sunday Confessionals (cute huh?) but I decided to go to bed early instead. It’s now after midnight and I’m just now getting ready to push the publish button and I can feel my eyes sagging. I probably won’t spell check tonight and will catch several spelling errors in the morning after you’ve all read it. I will log off my laptop only to go to the bedroom and watch my iPhone hoping for at least one comment before I go to sleep. And I will check my iPhone first thing in the morning (hopefully before my family is awake) to see who else is up this late (or early) and inspired to leave a comment. Why? So that I don’t feel like I’m vulnerable alone.
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